Episode 034 – Finding the Silver Lining

In today’s episode Melissa shares a terrifying experience walking her dog, Tater, and we dive in to find the silver lining. How is this marriage related? We don’t really know, but finding the silver lining in crappy life events is a necessary tool in the tool box for a successful marriage so we help Melissa do that and then end the episode with a wonderful Silver Lining Finding Hack!

Play Your Part

Mark and I recently decided to change churches. This was a hard decision because the church we left has been amazing in a million different ways ESPECIALLY with our children. Oh my goodness did those people love our babies. But we needed to trust God,  make some changes, walk in faith, etc.

So we start going to this new church, and since it was Mark that felt led to go to this new church I was under the impression he would be responsible for gathering the troops on Sunday morning. Well, the first Sunday we decide to go to church he says never mind. We’ll just stay home and watch it on tv.

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Episode # 030 – Can I Get Some Help Around Here?

Asking for help is hard. That’s why we decided to dig deeper into this topic on today’s podcast. We talk about whether or not we like to give help, why we both hate asking for help, and why it seems only women have this issue (I think we can all agree that our men have no issue asking us to do things for them.)

So as we try and unpack the potential underlying reasons for why asking for help can be so difficult, we also wanted to give some advice on how to start communicating our need for support in the relationship and in the household.

And ladies, don’t be afraid to get picky.

Episode # 021 – Money Tips with Melissa

Melissa is flying solo today and sharing some things she has learned about marriage + money! A nice quick listen to get your focus right when it comes to your joint wallet!

I’m Fine

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That’s one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves and our spouses. And a lie is a lie, no matter how small.

And big lies, like cheating or hiding debt, aren’t the only way to destroy trust in a relationship. A ‘little’ lie about being fine when you aren’t may take longer, but it is just as devastating to a relationship over time.

I took time to think about why I said I was fine when I wasn’t. I lied because it felt safer. I lied because I didn’t always believe Mark would care that I was hurting or mad.

I don’t tell Mark I’m fine when I’m not anymore. I tell him I’m frustrated or annoyed or disappointed or really sad. He doesn’t always like to hear those things, but he appreciates being told the truth upfront instead of getting hit with it out of nowhere a couple of hours later.

Figure out why you hide behind ‘fine’ and then commit to being honest and taking care of the trust that glues you together.