In today’s episode Melissa and Marie talk about Kim and Kanye. We talk about the similarities between Mark & Marie and Kim & Kanye, what to do when your husband’s opinions make you cringe, and how much of a united front is healthy and how much is enabling bad behavior. ALSO, hear Marie fangirl HARD over Kim.
In today’s episode Melissa shares a terrifying experience walking her dog, Tater, and we dive in to find the silver lining. How is this marriage related? We don’t really know, but finding the silver lining in crappy life events is a necessary tool in the tool box for a successful marriage so we help Melissa do that and then end the episode with a wonderful Silver Lining Finding Hack!
Mark and I recently decided to change churches. This was a hard decision because the church we left has been amazing in a million different ways ESPECIALLY with our children. Oh my goodness did those people love our babies. But we needed to trust God, make some changes, walk in faith, etc.
So we start going to this new church, and since it was Mark that felt led to go to this new church I was under the impression he would be responsible for gathering the troops on Sunday morning. Well, the first Sunday we decide to go to church he says never mind. We’ll just stay home and watch it on tv.
Sometimes age differences are a little creepy. We agree. But that didn’t stop us from marrying men older than us– especially not Marie. In today’s episode we’re talking about our age differences with our husbands and if it has ever created issues in our relationships and times when we’ve really noticed Oh, we really aren’t the same age.
And as a little treat, Melissa created a game for Marie to play– What’s The Age Difference? So you’ll have to tune in to hear her hilarious attempt at this game.
Awhile ago we made a podcast about hobbies our husbands had (because Marie and I discovered we had absolutely no hobbies.) But in that podcast, I shared stories about me trying to get in on all the fun Shawn was having without me when he was mountain biking. This resulted in lots of wrecking and a few bruises, but I had fun.
So this past weekend, I decided to try my hand at woodworking. Now, we aren’t doing anything major (and I highly doubt you can even call this woodworking) but he cut pieces of wood so we could create some home decor. And I didn’t just sit inside and wait for him to get done! I watched, I sanded the edges, and I helped him paint and stain it all. It really was a feat for me because I usually hate being a bystander in activities or having to do “piddly” jobs.
This can be a tricky topic, and we’re very aware of that. But Melissa, and now Marie, are proponents of Feminism and what it stands for. We talk about what Feminism is to us, what our husbands think about it, and how it can play a role in our marriage.
Feminism has gotten a bad rap lately, and many women say they believe in the ideas behind it but don’t want to be associated with the term or movement. Marie was in that boat, too. Although we get where you’re coming from, we discuss how every group– religious, or not– all have their extremist. It doesn’t matter if it’s being vegan or being a crossfitter, there is always someone associated with the group that will “ruin” its name. That’s just the way it is. So that’s why Melissa is a big proponent of owning the title of Feminist, take back the meaning.
And although she doesn’t articulate what Feminism means to her that well, she’ll definitely take a shot at it in writing (because she’s a lot better at that than talking on the spot).
When Shawn was interviewing for the job he has currently, they told him that it would include traveling. As an (almost) newlywed, he made it known that he didn’t want to constantly be on the road going from installation from installation at the drop of a hat. They agreed that he shouldn’t, and wouldn’t go through that– especially since
he had a really awesome wife he didn’t want to be away from he was going to be newly married and in a new state.
They said they understood that marriage is important, especially in the beginning years. They’re formative and can really set the tone of the marriage. And our tone wasn’t going to be Lonely Melissa, that was for sure.