Episode #028 – Cheetahs

In today’s podcast, we touch on a heavy subject: cheating. Although neither of us have been cheated on, to our own knowledge, we discuss what we qualify as cheating, why cheating happens, and if there can be a happy-ending from it. We also talk about what to do after you find out you’ve been cheated on and you find yourself in that “now what” phase.

It’s not easy. It’ll never be easy. But like we said in our last podcast, marriage is the union of two awesome forgivers.

Episode # 027 – Is It Too Late To Say Sorry?

As a follow up to Criticism v Advice, we talk about saying sorry to your spouse. We all know that it seems like the hardest thing to do, but we discuss why that is… and why we hate doing it. We discuss some of our biggest fights, who is the weaker spouse usually says sorry first, and we give some advice on how to apologize correctly.

We’ll be the first to admit that it’s not easy or fun, but it’s a necessary skill in marriage (and all relationships).

Episode # 026 – Criticism v Advice

In today’s podcast, we explore the difference between these two concepts… and how hard it can be to navigate between the two. We talk about the few “pointers” our husbands share with us can… and do… make us go completely and totally mad. We then talk about the few things that actually get under their skin– and yes, we found out that they DO have feelings!!! And finally, we give a little advice on how to truly tell the difference between criticism and advice and how you should check yourself before you speak that next piece of “advice” that’s coming from a really ugly place in your heart.

So check-out the worksheet we created that will help you turn criticism into advice that will strengthen, nourish, and build your relationship!

Episode # 025 – Married to the White Man

Today’s podcast is about cultural differences and how they can make marriage, parenting, and all-things-life-related just plain hard— because, it wasn’t hard enough already. We share a few things that we’ve noticed that differ from our white mother-in-laws compared to our Filipina mama; how growing up mixed is hard and confusing and downright lonely sometimes; and we share some tips on how to have a cross-cultural marriage without completely and totally offending your spouse.

Episode # 024 – Money Hack: Income v Expenses

After their trip to Las Vegas for Grant Cardone’s 10x Growth Con, Shawn was inspired to talk about this little financial tid-bit that he learned: earning more versus spending less. Something about this advice is hard to swallow. Maybe it’s because we, as a society, are taught that saving is the only way you’ll be able to have financial stability and freedom. So many people preach about saving, saving, and saving some more. However, many of the speakers at this conference detested that kind of mindset and said that it was promoting fear and scarcity. It’s hard to get out of that habit, though. We know it. We’ve been there.

Instead, these big-ballers explain that you have to jack-up your income instead of focusing on what you’re spending– especially if you’re trying to launch a business. They tell you to make so much income that it doesn’t matter how much you’re “throwing away” because you’re making it back in double the time.

Again, we know that this is hard advice to live by. Especially when you have Warren Buffet telling you to count your pennies and cut the coupons. But, it is a different approach that makes sense and makes us feel a little less guilty about being more aggressive with our money.

Episode # 023 – Picky Vicky

Today’s episode we’re talking about how dang picky our men are when it comes to how we dress (insert the BIGGEST eye-roll here)! Please tell us that you can relate. We talk about how our husbands make fun of our grandma sweaters, Melissa’s obsession with floral and slippers, and Marie’s dedication to everything over-sized. Because of this, we decided to do a little challenge, if you will! We’re going to let our men dress us for one business week (5 days) starting on Monday (March 5th). The rules for this little game are included in the link– no cheating ladies!

We’ll also post on Instagram and Facebook of our Mark- and Shawn-inspired looks plus a little blurb about why they chose what they wanted us to wear.

Episode # 022 – In Law Lessons

Today’s episode focuses on some lessons we’ve learned from our in-laws, or in-loves as Marie calls them. Marie shares how she sometimes feel like kindred souls with her mother-in-law because they’re literally married to the same man. I mean, it takes a lot to put up with an Oates Man. And Melissa shares how the stories of her mother-in-law’s ex husband inspires her to never settle in a relationship… and to always pick the spouse that you’re able to be yourself around! (You’ll even hear her get a little teary-eyed during this one!)