And even if there is “science” to prove they <s>are weaker than us</s> do get sicker, how many of us actually baby their man-child? Surprisingly, Marie tells us in this podcast that she lets Mark fend for himself.
With that being said, in this episode we talk about who gets taken care of the most, weird remedies, and our go-to comfort foods and medicines when we’re sick. We’ve also compiled a list of the above-mentioned for the next time you or your spouse get the sniffles!
Fair is far, right? Keeping score in a relationship, of any kind, is natural because no one wants to feel cheated. But there are several reasons why this “survival tactic” of ours is actually ruining our relationships. But we know that we don’t have to tell you twice that keeping score isn’t the best idea for your relationship. I mean, the term in-itself implies that you’re not on the same team/page. That’s why we talk about how to stop and how we’ve gotten over this hump in the past by having a chore chart as a way to try and keep the peace when it comes to household duties and how giving more might actually be the key to success.
So, as promised, we’ve included a link to The Go-Giver, the book that talks about this exact topic (spoiler alert: it tells you to stop counting and start giving).
We also take a closer look at goals we’ve set personally. Melissa has made it her mission to continually feed Shawn’s love plant every week by leaving him random thank-you notes. This is inspired by his love language: words of affirmation. During the podcast, Marie even comes up with her new, personal goal to help feed her relationship and Mark’s love plant (carving out specific, uninterrupted time for him once a week).
So. Because this topic is so, SO, SO important, and constantly glossed over, we’ve also created a pdf of some sample goals you can set as a team, for yourself, and for other areas of your life.
Yeah, you heard me right. And no, I’m not kidding.
I think there are some similarities between healthy poop and healthy fights:
It’s intact. The ‘mushier’ the poop the less healthy it is. A healthy fight is also intact. It’s about one topic. A ‘mushy’ fight is when you start off fighting about chores and end up fighting about that time 3 years ago when she forgot to pick up your dry cleaning. Keep your fights focused on what topic at a time.
It’s regular. Regular bowel movements are a great sign things are going well. Same thing with fights. It’s not a great idea to let things build up. It doesn’t make fighting or pooping easier. Are you regularly letting each other know what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling? Or are you opting to hold it just a little bit longer? Much like pooping, fighting is good for you.
It doesn’t hurt. This is really important. Pooping shouldn’t hurt. Fighting shouldn’t hurt. But since most of us don’t get to see great examples of healthy fighting many of us are terrified that it won’t feel good. We hide from it because we can’t imagine being in conflict with a person you love to ultimately end in feeling closer. We imagine the only thing that comes from fighting is hurt, so we avoid it. This doesn’t mean painless fighting is natural, I think it’s a learned skill. But, like pooping, if it hurts it’s not healthy.