Long Distance Relationship

Shawn’s job requires him to travel a lot. Usually it’s within the States, but this past year he has almost exclusively been traveling to China.

He usually has to be there for 3-5 weeks at a time, which can put a damper on our dynamic.

And for those of you that doesn’t listen to the podcast (yet), our dynamic is that of two co-dependent dogs. (please refer to season 2 episode 2: China, please don’t take my man).

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Episode # 010 – Couple Crushes

We’re not saying that Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have it figured out completely, but I think that there’s a reason that they’re happy, thriving, and still together through the madness of, not only marriage, but being frickin celebrities. From surprising her with sloths to admitting that their fighting use to be toxic, this couple gives us some great criteria on how to be a power couple

And ok. I (Melissa) couldn’t find much about Jessica being a philanthropist. But I did see that she was a big supporter for the #TimesUp movement going on. So, honestly, that’s good enough for me.

And I (Marie) told you so #hotaccountant. And here is what Dax said about Kristen/Kirsten/Christine said about her being too happy. I loved it.

Episode # 009 – Man v. The (not that bad) Cold

Everyone gets sick every now and then, but the real question is who is the bigger baby. There have been some articles floating around the interwebs about how men really do get sicker than women.

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And even if there is “science” to prove they <s>are weaker than us</s> do get sicker, how many of us actually baby their man-child? Surprisingly, Marie tells us in this podcast that she lets Mark fend for himself.

With that being said, in this episode we talk about who gets taken care of the most, weird remedies, and our go-to comfort foods and medicines when we’re sick. We’ve also compiled a list of the above-mentioned for the next time you or your spouse get the sniffles!

Healthy Pooping is like Healthy Fighting

Yeah, you heard me right. And no, I’m not kidding.

I think there are some similarities between healthy poop and healthy fights:

It’s intact. The ‘mushier’ the poop the less healthy it is. A healthy fight is also intact. It’s about one topic. A ‘mushy’ fight is when you start off fighting about chores and end up fighting about that time 3 years ago when she forgot to pick up your dry cleaning. Keep your fights focused on what topic at a time.

It’s regular. Regular bowel movements are a great sign things are going well. Same thing with fights. It’s not a great idea to let things build up. It doesn’t make fighting or pooping easier. Are you regularly letting each other know what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling? Or are you opting to hold it just a little bit longer? Much like pooping, fighting is good for you.

It doesn’t hurt. This is really important. Pooping shouldn’t hurt. Fighting shouldn’t hurt. But since most of us don’t get to see great examples of healthy fighting many of us are terrified that it won’t feel good. We hide from it because we can’t imagine being in conflict with a person you love to ultimately end in feeling closer. We imagine the only thing that comes from fighting is hurt, so we avoid it. This doesn’t mean painless fighting is natural, I think it’s a learned skill. But, like pooping, if it hurts it’s not healthy.

Episode #006 – Getting on the Same Page (special guest!!!)

In this episode Melissa and her new husband, Shawn, talk about getting on the same page! Like many of us already know, being on the same page is harder than it sounds, and it’s definitely something that couples don’t even realize is an issue. Because of this, Melissa and Shawn share about how they recently regrouped and made sure their goals for their life together were lined up. And (surprise, surprise) initially, they weren’t. 

Just like football, soccer, or doubles-tennis, marriage is a team-sport. And much like any team sport, it comes with a game-plan and with an unimaginable support system. And in order for the team to do well, they must communicate the plan they want to take together.

Melissa and Shawn used many different tools to shape their “page” and to make sure that they were both committed to it. One of them was to answer these questions together and with an open mind.

 

Episode # 005 – Pooping

I think the title says it all. Today we’re talking about pooping (and not pooping) around your spouse, marriage-poop etiquette, and if there is an underlying reason for not pooping around your spouse. (Melissa includes a response to the above-mentioned article that will either make you think she’s crazy or hilarious (but really just somewhere in-between).

And, although we agree that there usually aren’t any underlying issues when you’re unable to poop around your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend, we do mention how a healthy digestive system is kinda like healthy fighting in a different blog post.  It’s definitely a good read for the next time you take the throne.

Episode #003 – Ex S/Os + Jealousy

We have all experienced jealousy at one point or another, regardless of being the “jealous type” or not. And if you swear you’ve never been jealous before, check out this article to see if you’re a smidge more jealous than you let yourself believe. 

Anyway. Whether it was because you thought your spouse still has feelings for their ex or because you think they’re checking out other people; we’ve all been there. It hurts and it sucks, and we all definitely dwell on it an unhealthy amount.

In our latest podcast (Episode #003 Ex S/Os + Jealousy) we get into advice for people who struggle with jealousy. Although we both hate the sage advice of “give it time,” we must recognize that it is true. However, we do have some action steps that are helpful for those of you that want take strides to nip jealousy in the butt faster.