Keeping score in a relationship is, unfortunately, all too common. It becomes even more obvious when it’s the third time this week you’ve done dishes or you literally can’t remember the last time your partner initiated sex.Continue reading “Are You A Relationship Score Keeper?”
We’re not saying that Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have it figured out completely, but I think that there’s a reason that they’re happy, thriving, and still together through the madness of, not only marriage, but being frickin celebrities. From surprising her with sloths to admitting that their fighting use to be toxic, this couple gives us some great criteria on how to be a power couple.
And ok. I (Melissa) couldn’t find much about Jessica being a philanthropist. But I did see that she was a big supporter for the #TimesUp movement going on. So, honestly, that’s good enough for me.
And I (Marie) told you so #hotaccountant. And here is what Dax said about Kristen/Kirsten/Christine said about her being too happy. I loved it.
Yeah, you heard me right. And no, I’m not kidding.
I think there are some similarities between healthy poop and healthy fights:
It’s intact. The ‘mushier’ the poop the less healthy it is. A healthy fight is also intact. It’s about one topic. A ‘mushy’ fight is when you start off fighting about chores and end up fighting about that time 3 years ago when she forgot to pick up your dry cleaning. Keep your fights focused on what topic at a time.
It’s regular. Regular bowel movements are a great sign things are going well. Same thing with fights. It’s not a great idea to let things build up. It doesn’t make fighting or pooping easier. Are you regularly letting each other know what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling? Or are you opting to hold it just a little bit longer? Much like pooping, fighting is good for you.
It doesn’t hurt. This is really important. Pooping shouldn’t hurt. Fighting shouldn’t hurt. But since most of us don’t get to see great examples of healthy fighting many of us are terrified that it won’t feel good. We hide from it because we can’t imagine being in conflict with a person you love to ultimately end in feeling closer. We imagine the only thing that comes from fighting is hurt, so we avoid it. This doesn’t mean painless fighting is natural, I think it’s a learned skill. But, like pooping, if it hurts it’s not healthy.
I think the title says it all. Today we’re talking about pooping (and not pooping) around your spouse, marriage-poop etiquette, and if there is an underlying reason for not pooping around your spouse. (Melissa includes a response to the above-mentioned article that will either make you think she’s crazy or hilarious (but really just somewhere in-between).
And, although we agree that there usually aren’t any underlying issues when you’re unable to poop around your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend, we do mention how a healthy digestive system is kinda like healthy fighting in a different blog post. It’s definitely a good read for the next time you take the throne.